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What are the 15 things that contribute to good social & leadership skills in children?

Today I want to share with you 15 things that contribute to good social &   leadership skills in children.

What are of these skills you are able to recognize in your child?

  1. A child makes frequent eye contact when interacting with others.
  2. He/she smiles when he/she greets and talks with others.
  3. He/she shows interest in others by asking what they have been doing, how their day is going, and other similar things.
  4. He/she shows appreciation for and praises what others do.
  5. He/she understands the basic feelings of others.
  6. He/she listens attentively when others speak.
  7. He/she is able to focus on what others are saying
  8. A Child asks someone with ease to do something or to help with something.
  9. He/she doesn’t feel uncomfortable if he/she has to apologize for a mistake.
  10. He/she takes the initiative to make friends.
  11. A child is first to initiate a conversation with someone.
  12. He/she doesn’t feel shy or shame to recognize that they don’t know about something.
  13.  He/she doesn’t feel shy or shame to ask questions.
  14.  A child influences other kids rather than getting influenced by others.
  15.  A child has rich imaginations and leads out in the games.

Good social & Leadership skills are important in all aspects of your life. The most important way to improve your social & leadership skills is by getting out there and practicing them or join the A+ Smart Little Leaders™ course.

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  The Human brain is similar to the Universe! This is the most mysterious and undiscovered organ that humans have been gifted with.

Personally, I believe that the popular statement that humans use only 4-5 % of their brains is one of the greatest delusions of humanity. Go and try to find who made this delusional statement and you will not find it.

Now, many leading neuroscientists around the world agree unanimously that the human brain has tremendous potential and is capable to perform incredible tasks.

I am saying this because if someone ever tells your child: “You can’t do that!”, walk away from that “prophet.”

The dilemma is that humans can’t comprehend what great things the human brain is capable of doing. Often, because most of us like to believe in stereotypes that are presented by the mass media. We have a tendency to trust someone we don’t know, rather than to trust ourselves and to learn to listen to our intuition.

Do you remember, what one of the greatest scientists of all time, Albert Einstein said about intuition? He said: “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift…”

When we talk about physiology and children’s psychology, a child’s behavior and intellect, there are several very important considerations: Boys and girls are not only different physically but develop differently neurologically.

At about 5 months of age while in the mother’s Uterus, all babies receive an amazing hormone bath.

Male babies receive one bath of hormones, while female babies receive two baths of hormones.

And that’s why the female babies left and right brains are interconnected,  whereas the male babies’ brain is one sided.

Girls from their birth have more advanced social maturity than do the boys.

Sex differences in the brain are also reflected in a different developmental schedule for the girls and boys.

By most measures of sensory and cognitive development, girls are slightly more advanced; the vision, hearing, memory, smell, and touch are all more acute in female than male infants. They have more advanced verbal skills.

Girl babies also tend to be somewhat more socially adapted.

          And now we come to the important question: When do children, actually start developing social skills and showing their leadership skills?

It is obvious that a good leader has good social skills.

Social skills are those we use to communicate and to interact with each other, both verbally and non-verbally, through gestures, body language, and our demeanor.

And leadership skills are those we use to lead others, in order to reach shared goals.

Children who have inherited good social & leadership skills will easily and naturally get along with their peers as well as with adults and are able to create and maintain satisfying relationships as adults.

At what age does a child start developing Social & showing Leadership skills?

I would say that the child’s initial interaction begins in the uterus when the unborn baby learns to interact with its mother.

The child’s developmental interaction really starts, when he/she learns to walk and to talk. Most children have their individual time when they are ready to socialize with other children, and this may be around the age of 3 to 4 years of age.

It also depends on what kind of temperament the child has inherited: extroverts such as choleric and sanguine, or introverts such as melancholic and phlegmatic, a male or female.

It’s scientifically proven that girls develop earlier than boys physically and academically. We know that girls have their menses between 12 and 15 years of age, while the boys develop from 15 through 18 years of age.

Good social & leaders skills are important in all aspects of your child’s life.

The most important way to improve social & leadership skills in your child is by getting out there and practicing them or seek help from a specialist who specializes in leadership development in children and join the A+ Smart Little Leaders™ course.

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 By Aelita Archbold

 We live in a dangerous society where always something negative happens.

As parents, we have a tendency to overprotect our children and I am not an exception.

It’s not an easy task for parents to keep a healthy balance between not enough protection and overprotection.

How do we find the golden middle?

From the height of my experience, I would suggest, every day, at the dining table find time to talk to them.

Create a challenge for your children where your children will have to make a choice, to find the right solution, and report to you the results.

 At the end of the day bring them all to the table and break down the situation.

Let their voice be heard first.

Then, give your opinion on what was great and what areas need improvement.

 Help them to acknowledge what they did great and what they need to improve.  Do that nicely and tactfully. Never tell them only negative things they did or you can ruin their self-confidence for life!

Then you analyze and conclude.

Always allow your children to brainstorm the possible situation from different angles. There is no right or wrong.

The next time when they face a different challenge they will be ready for it and will know how to handle it.

 As a parent, be the best friend and phycologist to your own children.

 This way you will be able to create trust with your children and prepare them for real-life situations.

  If they respect you and your opinion and they will see the proof of your words in real life, they will not seek someone else’s help to solve the problem.

 This activity with your children will help you to develop a close and trusted relationship with your children and help to grow them into self-confident leaders.

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It’s scientifically proven that Learning improves the brain physically: as a result, the density and the quality of the neural connections increases.  The number of neurons, dendrites, and axons,  providing intracerebral connections and even the size of nerve fibers Increases due to intense myelination. The efficiency of gray and white matter is increasing.

The most complicated things in our brain are neuron connections. If all of them were strung in one long thread, it would be long enough to go 68 times around the Earth and make 7 round trips to the Moon! Its length is as “little” as 2.8 million km! In human embryo neurons forms with a speed of 500, 000 per minute that is 30 million per hour!

That encourages your child to continuously learn new things. Learning is very important for your child; it’s not just because your child has to study because it’s better to be smart than to be stupid, it benefits their brain and their life. And this doesn’t mean that each child should go to University or College.

What I am implying is,  we live in an era of artificial intelligence and the rapid development of technologies. We constantly have to learn new things, in order to use and control these new technologies. And that’s why we have to live in a state of continuous learning.

This is why we must live in a state of continuous learning so technology won’t control us in the near future!

“If the Human Brain were so simple

that we could understand it,

we would be so simple we couldn’t.”

Emerson Pugh

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First of all, what is the definition of a Leader?

A leader is a confident and courageous person with the ability to make difficult decisions while at the same time setting a good example for others to follow while taking responsibility for the final result.

They are individuals who set clear goals, detailed plans, and have a vision for success.

Usually, a child who is born with leadership skills will not seek attention from others. Other children will come to play with them because he/she will be the one who comes up with fun games and other creative ideas.

Children who are born leaders are very outgoing, want to know everything, constantly ask questions, and always want to be first in anything they do.

Each parent’s dream is to have children who are achievers, persistent, motivated, well-spoken, and outgoing.

If you want to know if your child is a leader or not, just observe how your child interacts with others, what types of games he/she likes to play.

If both you, the parent, and your child desires to become a leader, here are a few ways to accomplish that.

The most important for you is to understand that becoming a leader is a mental process that takes time, guidance, and patience.

A+ Smart Little Leaders program was specially designed for children who want to become leaders and develop their own leadership skills.

This course can aid your child in deciding if they should choose a leadership path in their future or not.

Regardless, having a set of leadership skills can be very useful, because it can make their future life less stressful and more successful.

If your child is a born leader, he/she will easily get attention from their peers, easily meet with children their own age, and quickly establish communication with their peers.

But what if your child is not that sociable but wants to become a leader?

What must he/she do? Is this even possible?

How can you help your child to develop leadership skills?

9 Ways You Can Help Your Child to Develop Leadership Skills

1. Show support & encouragement to your child. Have a positive attitude toward your child. Praise your child more than you scold him/her.

2. Use good humor in your communication with your child. Doing that will make it easier to go over negative obstacles in your child’s behavior.

3. Respect your child’s opinion. Right or wrong, your child has the right to have his/her opinion. If you think his/her opinion is wrong, you have to correct it softly using humor and by your own example. Remember to praise your child for speaking out, because it takes courage for your child to express their own opinion at an early age. It is good to know that the ability for your child to have his/her own opinion is a sign of a future leader.

4. Every day show love and kindness to your child. Be affectionate with kisses and hugs, and express how much you love him/her.

5. Invite your child to communicate with adults as well. For example, when you are visiting your friend or when you are at a store. Allow your child to ask questions and treat him/her equally during the conversation.

6. Support the hobby of your child. If your child likes sports, computer robotics, drawing, singing, acting, crafting take him/her to a YMCA or a Park District where you can find these classes. Take him/her to different talent contests, theaters, concerts. There your child can interact with like-minded children while learning new things and having fun. Take your child to the library. At the library, you can find many exciting activities that your child will enjoy.

7. Take your child to the leadership classes that teach such important skills such as public speaking.

8. Teach your child how to set goals and achieve them. Your child will learn to be responsible. Don’t use discouraging phrases such as: “you can’t do this, you will not be able to do this, it’s too hard for you, you are not smart enough, why do you need this, you don’t know how to do this.”

9. Develop an Initiative for your child.

Allow your child to plan and make a decision while wisely guiding them in the right direction. This way your child can be proud that he or she made this decision on their own.

As a mother or a father, you should initiate positive behavior in your child. When he/she starts the task, always encourage your child to complete it.

As a mother, I had questions myself: Are my son’s leaders or not?

To make things easier for you, I included in the link below is a simple Leadership Quiz for your child.

If your child has a strong desire to become a leader, has clear goals, determination, a sharp mind, and a plan in place, in spite of their temperament type, a child can become a leader. It may take more work for those who are phlegmatic and melancholics. Help them to work on persistence, determination, and self-discipline and sign up today for A+ Smart Little Leaders classes and win.

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