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How to regain your childhood self-confidence?

How To Regain Your Childhood Self-Confidence?

How can you achieve that?

This is the story of my life.

Before I went to school, I was a happy & lively child. 

At school, I got bullied by some peers that would make fun of me, simply because I was different. And I often just staid by myself, and listened to music that played in my head.

Because I didn’t fit into the crowd, and I liked to be by myself, or with one of my few friends that I still have today.  

I had a good voice and would frequently sing and play the piano, perform at the different city events, while attending the school of music, with a full-time curriculum.

In my regular school I was an introvert: closed and not social. 

Paradoxically, when I would attend the school of music, in the blink of an eye, I would immediately be transformed into a happy, lively, and outgoing extrovert leader!

But not every child has this opportunity.

With this being said, my best advice to you based on my own childhood experience is:

1. Do the “I am Mary”  exercise for 5 minutes every day. 

 2. If as a child you didnot learn how to defend yourself verbally, with humor or verbally, it’s never too late to join my individual or group leadership classes where your child will learn unique technics on how to regain self-confidence, to build communication skills, and learn to take action.

If you have a child with low self-confidence, it’s your responsibility as a parent, before they go to school, to train them to defend themself with verbally, with humor, or physically using different technics.

By the time they go to school, children should have smart templates in their heads (just memorize them) and be able to provide an immediate intellectual or physical defense to bullies and abusive children.

Sign them up for judo or karate classes. It will definitely boost their self-confidence. 

3. Create a vision board, where your child can pin the pictures where he/she looks as fearless winners. Leave it next to their bed. This way, every time your child enters their room they will see their positive and encouraging images. 

The purpose of all technics is to prepare your child to take action against bullies, abusive and toxic children.

These technics will perfectly work for adults as well.

Gradually, your child will learn to stand up for himself/herself and their values. And all bullies gradually will leave them alone and your child will gain the respect of their peers and will win the battle. 


It’s crucial to have a set of leadership skills in your life!

When you are a child you have natural leadership skills. 

It’s crucial to have a set of leadership skills in your life.

You are fearless. You are by naturehttps://www.smartlittleleaders.com/blog the boss until your parents let you know that you are not.

It’s very important how you as a parent introduce sets of restrictions for your child. If you do it invisibly in a game form, while having fun with your child, you can softly yet firmly introduce these rules to your child. You have to explain in a nice way what your child can do and what is not allowed.

The first reaction of your child on limiting his/her freedom is to cry as loud as they can, or get angry and throw a tantrum. This is due to your child still feeling fearless and having not yet faced a greater authority than their own. A child’s conscious and subconscious mind does not yet possess all the blocks until they reach school age. 

If your child goes to public school, their first reaction may be that Hell on Earth has arrived.

At school, your child may feel like he/she was thrown from a bridge into cold water and having to learn how to survive bullying, peer pressure, unfriendly kids, and new authorities destroying their happy personality that they had before attending school. 

At school, for the first time, your child learns so many negative things about themselves that sometimes it can overwrite many of the beautiful qualities in your child’s character. As a result, your child’s self-esteem, self-confidence rapidly crashes. Often your child has to face open hatred, humiliation, and a lack of respect to your child as a person. 

If your child acquired some leadership skills before he/she went to school, they would be more prepared for these big changes in their structured living environment! Having these additional skills can avoid their minds slowly but surely getting filled with mental blocks and layered fears which can force your child to become average instead of reaching their true potential. 

So, how can your child be better mentally prepared for a public-school environment?

How can you train your child to withstand huge mental and psychological obstacles created by peers and authority figures? How can you as a parent keep your child’s leadership skills that he/she had from birth? How can your child overcome a public-school experience with dignity and develop a complete set of leadership skills that will help him/her to remain and continue growing as a leader?

Here is how:

When your child is 5 years old, you as a parent should evaluate your child’s leadership skills, simply writing down on a piece of paper your child’s strengths on one side and weaknesses on another side. This will give you a clear picture of what you should work on with your child. It’s very important that you support a healthy initiative in your child, rewarding and recognizing it aloud. This will also help grow self-confidence in your child by understanding his/her uniqueness.

If you as a parent, can afford to stay at home with your child and do homeschooling, it would definitely reward your efforts in the future. I can say this because I taught my own children at home until 7th grade.

What are the benefits of homeschooling? To make it short, you are the main influencer and trendsetter for your child. While he/she is able to learn in a supportive environment free of bullying, peer pressure, and humiliation, and unbelief in your child’s hidden potential and uniqueness.

In this situation, only you will be responsible for their intellectual and emotional growth along with growing their leadership skills.

If your child can attend a private school, that would still be a better option than a public school. However, if you are not able to do that, then you have to realize that when you are tired and return from your work, you still have to communicate, encourage and develop all the best qualities that your child has. This is not an easy job, as you have to confront all the negativity that your child absorbed while at public school that day.

Of course, if your child is able to attend leadership classes as early as 5 years old, I can help you to grow your child into a strong leader over a period of time regardless of what temperament your child possesses.  

By using all my best technics that I used with my own children, who are now well grown, and were able to preserve and develop their leadership skills along with their own personality and uniqueness.


What are the 15 things that contribute to good social & leadership skills in children?

Today I want to share with you 15 things that contribute to good social &   leadership skills in children.

What are of these skills you are able to recognize in your child?

  1. A child makes frequent eye contact when interacting with others.
  2. He/she smiles when he/she greets and talks with others.
  3. He/she shows interest in others by asking what they have been doing, how their day is going, and other similar things.
  4. He/she shows appreciation for and praises what others do.
  5. He/she understands the basic feelings of others.
  6. He/she listens attentively when others speak.
  7. He/she is able to focus on what others are saying
  8. A Child asks someone with ease to do something or to help with something.
  9. He/she doesn’t feel uncomfortable if he/she has to apologize for a mistake.
  10. He/she takes the initiative to make friends.
  11. A child is first to initiate a conversation with someone.
  12. He/she doesn’t feel shy or shame to recognize that they don’t know about something.
  13.  He/she doesn’t feel shy or shame to ask questions.
  14.  A child influences other kids rather than getting influenced by others.
  15.  A child has rich imaginations and leads out in the games.

Good social & Leadership skills are important in all aspects of your life. The most important way to improve your social & leadership skills is by getting out there and practicing them or join the A+ Smart Little Leaders™ course.

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AT WHAT AGE CHILDREN DEVELOP SOCIAL & LEADERSHIP SKILLS? By Aelita Archbold

  The Human brain is similar to the Universe! This is the most mysterious and undiscovered organ that humans have been gifted with.

Personally, I believe that the popular statement that humans use only 4-5 % of their brains is one of the greatest delusions of humanity. Go and try to find who made this delusional statement and you will not find it.

Now, many leading neuroscientists around the world agree unanimously that the human brain has tremendous potential and is capable to perform incredible tasks.

I am saying this because if someone ever tells your child: “You can’t do that!”, walk away from that “prophet.”

The dilemma is that humans can’t comprehend what great things the human brain is capable of doing. Often, because most of us like to believe in stereotypes that are presented by the mass media. We have a tendency to trust someone we don’t know, rather than to trust ourselves and to learn to listen to our intuition.

Do you remember, what one of the greatest scientists of all time, Albert Einstein said about intuition? He said: “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift…”

When we talk about physiology and children’s psychology, a child’s behavior and intellect, there are several very important considerations: Boys and girls are not only different physically but develop differently neurologically.

At about 5 months of age while in the mother’s Uterus, all babies receive an amazing hormone bath.

Male babies receive one bath of hormones, while female babies receive two baths of hormones.

And that’s why the female babies left and right brains are interconnected,  whereas the male babies’ brain is one sided.

Girls from their birth have more advanced social maturity than do the boys.

Sex differences in the brain are also reflected in a different developmental schedule for the girls and boys.

By most measures of sensory and cognitive development, girls are slightly more advanced; the vision, hearing, memory, smell, and touch are all more acute in female than male infants. They have more advanced verbal skills.

Girl babies also tend to be somewhat more socially adapted.

          And now we come to the important question: When do children, actually start developing social skills and showing their leadership skills?

It is obvious that a good leader has good social skills.

Social skills are those we use to communicate and to interact with each other, both verbally and non-verbally, through gestures, body language, and our demeanor.

And leadership skills are those we use to lead others, in order to reach shared goals.

Children who have inherited good social & leadership skills will easily and naturally get along with their peers as well as with adults and are able to create and maintain satisfying relationships as adults.

At what age does a child start developing Social & showing Leadership skills?

I would say that the child’s initial interaction begins in the uterus when the unborn baby learns to interact with its mother.

The child’s developmental interaction really starts, when he/she learns to walk and to talk. Most children have their individual time when they are ready to socialize with other children, and this may be around the age of 3 to 4 years of age.

It also depends on what kind of temperament the child has inherited: extroverts such as choleric and sanguine, or introverts such as melancholic and phlegmatic, a male or female.

It’s scientifically proven that girls develop earlier than boys physically and academically. We know that girls have their menses between 12 and 15 years of age, while the boys develop from 15 through 18 years of age.

Good social & leaders skills are important in all aspects of your child’s life.

The most important way to improve social & leadership skills in your child is by getting out there and practicing them or seek help from a specialist who specializes in leadership development in children and join the A+ Smart Little Leaders™ course.

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