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How from your child do you raise a leader? Techniques

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How from your child do you raise a leader? Techniques

by Aelita Archbold

These techniques will help you with your child’s self-esteem and self-confidence.

1. On a piece of paper write down your child’s big goal and ask him/her what belief stops your child from achieving that.

For example:  your child should say aloud: “I think am not smart enough, I think am slow, lazy, disorganized…”

Then ask your child: where does your belief live? What or who made you think this way?

What do you feel when you think this way?

Then, this is important: Ask your child to describe the feelings. What does it look like? How does it smell? What size is it? What color, shape?

It’s important that your child keeps focused and doesn’t get distracted.

2. Take a paper bag and a few paper boxes. (you can use other materials, it’s up to your creativity)

Uncover the first box. Ask your child to throw each negative feeling into a separate box, cover it, and place it into the big paper bag. When all negative feelings are have been placed into the boxes, take the paper bag with boxes, take your child to the backyard and say: “Now, all of your bad feelings and negative beliefs will be burned forever and never return to you back”.

Burn it and let your child to see it.

This symbolic procedure will help your child visually and mentally get rid of negative beliefs.

3. Replace each of the written negative statements announced by your child with positive statements.

Each statement your child should say aloud and at the end of each statement to say out loud his/her name.

For example:

“I am smart, I am Peter, I am beautiful, I am Mary, I am confident, I am Sarah.”

The statement should be very short.

Repeat it several times a day and support each statement with little nice “visual anchors” written on a sticky small piece of paper with different markers. Stick them across your child’s bed, on the mirror in the bathroom, on the child’s Ipod screen, on the closet. It will work! Every time your child sees these little “visual anchors”, it will seed the positive sprouts in your child’s conscious and subconscious mind.

4. Anchor A

Mother comes to the child from behind and gently whispers one of the statements to the child’s left or a right ear while putting gentle and short pressure on your child’s shoulders.

5.  anchor B

Ask your child to say several positive statements with his/her name at the end of each phrase while smoothly step from one leg to another leg while saying the positive statements. This will really help your child and help the subconscious mind to absorb and anchor all positive statements.

During the running, jumping, ask your child to say loud the same statements. All these little anchors will do their amazing job and over time will rebuild your child’s self-confidence.

6.  anchor C

Ask your child:  “ What does he/she sees when they say: I am smart, I am beautiful, I am fearless?”

Ask them to draw a picture for each statement, (the one statement at the time) ask them to draw several copies, and place it in different parts of the house, on the computer, iPod, inside of the dresser, closet, everywhere where your child will frequently see it.

All these symbols anchor reminders your child will be surprised to see in different places in the house, will bring great results.

Never let your child criticize himself/herself out loud! It’s extreamely NOT GOOD because it will bring negative beliefs and settle it in his/her mind. And if a child has other kids or adults next to them, a child can convince others to believe the negative statements.

It’s important to keep your child away from destructive criticism coming from his/her child care providers, peers, friends at the playground and instead bring your child to places, where he gets encouraged, supported, and motivated.

Sign up your child for any sports activities: swimming, figure skating, tennis, running, jumping, martial arts. Their self-confidence will be drastically increased along with physical strength, immune system, and physical and mental health.

At the end of the day, together with your child write down in a separate notebook all great things he/she achieved during the day and give them a reward. And set goals for the next day.

If you post pictures with your child on Social Media, make sure to post only those pictures where your child looks happy and smiling.

These priceless techniques will help your child to restore self-confidence, self esteem and will open the long and beautiful road of a leader.

How from your child do you raise a leader?

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How from your child do you raise a leader?
The most important thing to consider is to build your child’s self-confidence.
What is Self-confidence? Simply saying, Self-confidence is how confident you are in your ability or skills.
Before doing that you have to understand why your child has low self-confidence?
If your child is 4-6 years old and you are raising your child yourself. Take a piece of paper and write down those statements that diminish your child’s self-confidence that you say frequently to your child during the day.
These are the self-confidence damaging statements you want to avoid.
  1. Endless Comparison with other children: “Look at Mary she is so smart at Math and look at Peter he is so talented, he plays the piano so well!” Or being consistently compared unfavorably to a sibling.
  2. Deprecation, putting down your child. Worse yet, if you do that in front of other adults or children. “Look at yourself, you look like…” “If you will continue to be lazy you will not succeed”…
  3. Overprotecting or being careless to your child. Both extremes are not good.
When your child becomes an adult, low self-confidence can manifest in a Constructive or Destructive way.
Let’s see the Constructive way, first. The percentage is very small.
In this situation, according to Alfred Adler, the hypercompensatory personality function gets activated! And this is great! 🙂
For example, Napoleon. He was short but he compensated for his short height through his military wins. Marilyn Monroe suffered from low self-confidence and compensated through her fabulous movie roles and sexuality.
Many great achievements are built on low self-esteem and low self-confidence foundation.
From one side it can be good because those low self-confidence kids sometimes achieve great things in life and become very successful. “Look, Papa, you told me that I will not make it, that I am stupid, but looks at me, I own this huge network”. However, any major problems such as: divorce, financial crash, losing the house, business, betrail of a family member will immediately bring you to your childhood belief: “I am nobody”…
And it will take a lot more time to recover from the stress and or depression if compared with a self-confident person.
Life would be built on a constant fight, proof to himself/herself and to the parents, that “I” can make it.”
Low self-confidence can be Constructive & Destructive.
Let’s see the Destructive way. The percentage is much bigger.
Such an adult will afraid to date, afraid to ask for better pay, afraid to find a better job he/she deserves, in another word, this adult will follow his/her fears and achieve very little in their life. And the cause of the fear comes from their childhood!
If on Social Media you see the nasty comments, now you will know that people with low Self Esteem and Self Confidence will be happy to leave very negative comments.
This is their way of self-assertion over other people.
Another extreme.
People who have low self-confidence can become dictators! They feel good when they put down their wife, husband, employees, verbally and physically abusing their family members.
Look at the life of Adolf Hitler. As a child, Adolf Hitler was often sick and his mother was overly protective to him, while his father was physically and verbally abusive to Adolf Hitler. And look what we got! He became one of the world’s most terrible dictators!
Now that you learned a lot about self-confidence, I want to share with you the technics on how to build, restore self-confidence in your child.

How to regain your childhood self-confidence?

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How To Regain Your Childhood Self-Confidence?

How can you achieve that?

This is the story of my life.

Before I went to school, I was a happy & lively child. 

At school, I got bullied by some peers that would make fun of me, simply because I was different. And I often just staid by myself, and listened to music that played in my head.

Because I didn’t fit into the crowd, and I liked to be by myself, or with one of my few friends that I still have today.  

I had a good voice and would frequently sing and play the piano, perform at the different city events, while attending the school of music, with a full-time curriculum.

In my regular school I was an introvert: closed and not social. 

Paradoxically, when I would attend the school of music, in the blink of an eye, I would immediately be transformed into a happy, lively, and outgoing extrovert leader!

But not every child has this opportunity.

With this being said, my best advice to you based on my own childhood experience is:

1. Do the “I am Mary”  exercise for 5 minutes every day. 

 2. If as a child you didnot learn how to defend yourself verbally, with humor or verbally, it’s never too late to join my individual or group leadership classes where your child will learn unique technics on how to regain self-confidence, to build communication skills, and learn to take action.

If you have a child with low self-confidence, it’s your responsibility as a parent, before they go to school, to train them to defend themself with verbally, with humor, or physically using different technics.

By the time they go to school, children should have smart templates in their heads (just memorize them) and be able to provide an immediate intellectual or physical defense to bullies and abusive children.

Sign them up for judo or karate classes. It will definitely boost their self-confidence. 

3. Create a vision board, where your child can pin the pictures where he/she looks as fearless winners. Leave it next to their bed. This way, every time your child enters their room they will see their positive and encouraging images. 

The purpose of all technics is to prepare your child to take action against bullies, abusive and toxic children.

These technics will perfectly work for adults as well.

Gradually, your child will learn to stand up for himself/herself and their values. And all bullies gradually will leave them alone and your child will gain the respect of their peers and will win the battle. 

It’s crucial to have a set of leadership skills in your life!

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When you are a child you have natural leadership skills. 

It’s crucial to have a set of leadership skills in your life.

You are fearless. You are by naturehttps://www.smartlittleleaders.com/blog the boss until your parents let you know that you are not.

It’s very important how you as a parent introduce sets of restrictions for your child. If you do it invisibly in a game form, while having fun with your child, you can softly yet firmly introduce these rules to your child. You have to explain in a nice way what your child can do and what is not allowed.

The first reaction of your child on limiting his/her freedom is to cry as loud as they can, or get angry and throw a tantrum. This is due to your child still feeling fearless and having not yet faced a greater authority than their own. A child’s conscious and subconscious mind does not yet possess all the blocks until they reach school age. 

If your child goes to public school, their first reaction may be that Hell on Earth has arrived.

At school, your child may feel like he/she was thrown from a bridge into cold water and having to learn how to survive bullying, peer pressure, unfriendly kids, and new authorities destroying their happy personality that they had before attending school. 

At school, for the first time, your child learns so many negative things about themselves that sometimes it can overwrite many of the beautiful qualities in your child’s character. As a result, your child’s self-esteem, self-confidence rapidly crashes. Often your child has to face open hatred, humiliation, and a lack of respect to your child as a person. 

If your child acquired some leadership skills before he/she went to school, they would be more prepared for these big changes in their structured living environment! Having these additional skills can avoid their minds slowly but surely getting filled with mental blocks and layered fears which can force your child to become average instead of reaching their true potential. 

So, how can your child be better mentally prepared for a public-school environment?

How can you train your child to withstand huge mental and psychological obstacles created by peers and authority figures? How can you as a parent keep your child’s leadership skills that he/she had from birth? How can your child overcome a public-school experience with dignity and develop a complete set of leadership skills that will help him/her to remain and continue growing as a leader?

Here is how:

When your child is 5 years old, you as a parent should evaluate your child’s leadership skills, simply writing down on a piece of paper your child’s strengths on one side and weaknesses on another side. This will give you a clear picture of what you should work on with your child. It’s very important that you support a healthy initiative in your child, rewarding and recognizing it aloud. This will also help grow self-confidence in your child by understanding his/her uniqueness.

If you as a parent, can afford to stay at home with your child and do homeschooling, it would definitely reward your efforts in the future. I can say this because I taught my own children at home until 7th grade.

What are the benefits of homeschooling? To make it short, you are the main influencer and trendsetter for your child. While he/she is able to learn in a supportive environment free of bullying, peer pressure, and humiliation, and unbelief in your child’s hidden potential and uniqueness.

In this situation, only you will be responsible for their intellectual and emotional growth along with growing their leadership skills.

If your child can attend a private school, that would still be a better option than a public school. However, if you are not able to do that, then you have to realize that when you are tired and return from your work, you still have to communicate, encourage and develop all the best qualities that your child has. This is not an easy job, as you have to confront all the negativity that your child absorbed while at public school that day.

Of course, if your child is able to attend leadership classes as early as 5 years old, I can help you to grow your child into a strong leader over a period of time regardless of what temperament your child possesses.  

By using all my best technics that I used with my own children, who are now well grown, and were able to preserve and develop their leadership skills along with their own personality and uniqueness.

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