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How to regain your childhood self-confidence?

How To Regain Your Childhood Self-Confidence?

How can you achieve that?

This is the story of my life.

Before I went to school, I was a happy & lively child. 

At school, I got bullied by some peers that would make fun of me, simply because I was different. And I often just staid by myself, and listened to music that played in my head.

Because I didn’t fit into the crowd, and I liked to be by myself, or with one of my few friends that I still have today.  

I had a good voice and would frequently sing and play the piano, perform at the different city events, while attending the school of music, with a full-time curriculum.

In my regular school I was an introvert: closed and not social. 

Paradoxically, when I would attend the school of music, in the blink of an eye, I would immediately be transformed into a happy, lively, and outgoing extrovert leader!

But not every child has this opportunity.

With this being said, my best advice to you based on my own childhood experience is:

1. Do the “I am Mary”  exercise for 5 minutes every day. 

 2. If as a child you didnot learn how to defend yourself verbally, with humor or verbally, it’s never too late to join my individual or group leadership classes where your child will learn unique technics on how to regain self-confidence, to build communication skills, and learn to take action.

If you have a child with low self-confidence, it’s your responsibility as a parent, before they go to school, to train them to defend themself with verbally, with humor, or physically using different technics.

By the time they go to school, children should have smart templates in their heads (just memorize them) and be able to provide an immediate intellectual or physical defense to bullies and abusive children.

Sign them up for judo or karate classes. It will definitely boost their self-confidence. 

3. Create a vision board, where your child can pin the pictures where he/she looks as fearless winners. Leave it next to their bed. This way, every time your child enters their room they will see their positive and encouraging images. 

The purpose of all technics is to prepare your child to take action against bullies, abusive and toxic children.

These technics will perfectly work for adults as well.

Gradually, your child will learn to stand up for himself/herself and their values. And all bullies gradually will leave them alone and your child will gain the respect of their peers and will win the battle. 

It’s crucial to have a set of leadership skills in your life!

When you are a child you have natural leadership skills. 

It’s crucial to have a set of leadership skills in your life.

You are fearless. You are by nature the boss until your parents let you know that you are not.

It’s very important how you as a parent introduce sets of restrictions for your child. If you do it invisibly in a game form, while having fun with your child, you can softly yet firmly introduce these rules to your child. You have to explain in a nice way what your child can do and what is not allowed.

The first reaction of your child on limiting his/her freedom is to cry as loud as they can, or get angry and throw a tantrum. This is due to your child still feeling fearless and having not yet faced a greater authority than their own. A child’s conscious and subconscious mind does not yet possess all the blocks until they reach school age. 

If your child goes to public school, their first reaction may be that Hell on Earth has arrived.

At school, your child may feel like he/she was thrown from a bridge into cold water and having to learn how to survive bullying, peer pressure, unfriendly kids, and new authorities destroying their happy personality that they had before attending school. 

At school, for the first time, your child learns so many negative things about themselves that sometimes it can overwrite many of the beautiful qualities in your child’s character. As a result, your child’s self-esteem, self-confidence rapidly crashes. Often your child has to face open hatred, humiliation, and a lack of respect to your child as a person. 

If your child acquired some leadership skills before he/she went to school, they would be more prepared for these big changes in their structured living environment! Having these additional skills can avoid their minds slowly but surely getting filled with mental blocks and layered fears which can force your child to become average instead of reaching their true potential. 

So, how can your child be better mentally prepared for a public-school environment?

How can you train your child to withstand huge mental and psychological obstacles created by peers and authority figures? How can you as a parent keep your child’s leadership skills that he/she had from birth? How can your child overcome a public-school experience with dignity and develop a complete set of leadership skills that will help him/her to remain and continue growing as a leader?

Here is how:

When your child is 5 years old, you as a parent should evaluate your child’s leadership skills, simply writing down on a piece of paper your child’s strengths on one side and weaknesses on another side. This will give you a clear picture of what you should work on with your child. It’s very important that you support a healthy initiative in your child, rewarding and recognizing it aloud. This will also help grow self-confidence in your child by understanding his/her uniqueness.

If you as a parent, can afford to stay at home with your child and do homeschooling, it would definitely reward your efforts in the future. I can say this because I taught my own children at home until 7th grade.

What are the benefits of homeschooling? To make it short, you are the main influencer and trendsetter for your child. While he/she is able to learn in a supportive environment free of bullying, peer pressure, and humiliation, and unbelief in your child’s hidden potential and uniqueness.

In this situation, only you will be responsible for their intellectual and emotional growth along with growing their leadership skills.

If your child can attend a private school, that would still be a better option than a public school. However, if you are not able to do that, then you have to realize that when you are tired and return from your work, you still have to communicate, encourage and develop all the best qualities that your child has. This is not an easy job, as you have to confront all the negativity that your child absorbed while at public school that day.

Of course, if your child is able to attend leadership classes as early as 5 years old, I can help you to grow your child into a strong leader over a period of time regardless of what temperament your child possesses.  

By using all my best technics that I used with my own children, who are now well grown, and were able to preserve and develop their leadership skills along with their own personality and uniqueness.