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What are the 15 things that contribute to good social & leadership skills in children?

Today I want to share with you 15 things that contribute to good social &   leadership skills in children.

What are of these skills you are able to recognize in your child?

  1. A child makes frequent eye contact when interacting with others.
  2. He/she smiles when he/she greets and talks with others.
  3. He/she shows interest in others by asking what they have been doing, how their day is going, and other similar things.
  4. He/she shows appreciation for and praises what others do.
  5. He/she understands the basic feelings of others.
  6. He/she listens attentively when others speak.
  7. He/she is able to focus on what others are saying
  8. A Child asks someone with ease to do something or to help with something.
  9. He/she doesn’t feel uncomfortable if he/she has to apologize for a mistake.
  10. He/she takes the initiative to make friends.
  11. A child is first to initiate a conversation with someone.
  12. He/she doesn’t feel shy or shame to recognize that they don’t know about something.
  13.  He/she doesn’t feel shy or shame to ask questions.
  14.  A child influences other kids rather than getting influenced by others.
  15.  A child has rich imaginations and leads out in the games.

Good social & Leadership skills are important in all aspects of your life. The most important way to improve your social & leadership skills is by getting out there and practicing them or join the A+ Smart Little Leaders™ course.

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  The Human brain is similar to the Universe! This is the most mysterious and undiscovered organ that humans have been gifted with.

Personally, I believe that the popular statement that humans use only 4-5 % of their brains is one of the greatest delusions of humanity. Go and try to find who made this delusional statement and you will not find it.

Now, many leading neuroscientists around the world agree unanimously that the human brain has tremendous potential and is capable to perform incredible tasks.

I am saying this because if someone ever tells your child: “You can’t do that!”, walk away from that “prophet.”

The dilemma is that humans can’t comprehend what great things the human brain is capable of doing. Often, because most of us like to believe in stereotypes that are presented by the mass media. We have a tendency to trust someone we don’t know, rather than to trust ourselves and to learn to listen to our intuition.

Do you remember, what one of the greatest scientists of all time, Albert Einstein said about intuition? He said: “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift…”

When we talk about physiology and children’s psychology, a child’s behavior and intellect, there are several very important considerations: Boys and girls are not only different physically but develop differently neurologically.

At about 5 months of age while in the mother’s Uterus, all babies receive an amazing hormone bath.

Male babies receive one bath of hormones, while female babies receive two baths of hormones.

And that’s why the female babies left and right brains are interconnected,  whereas the male babies’ brain is one sided.

Girls from their birth have more advanced social maturity than do the boys.

Sex differences in the brain are also reflected in a different developmental schedule for the girls and boys.

By most measures of sensory and cognitive development, girls are slightly more advanced; the vision, hearing, memory, smell, and touch are all more acute in female than male infants. They have more advanced verbal skills.

Girl babies also tend to be somewhat more socially adapted.

          And now we come to the important question: When do children, actually start developing social skills and showing their leadership skills?

It is obvious that a good leader has good social skills.

Social skills are those we use to communicate and to interact with each other, both verbally and non-verbally, through gestures, body language, and our demeanor.

And leadership skills are those we use to lead others, in order to reach shared goals.

Children who have inherited good social & leadership skills will easily and naturally get along with their peers as well as with adults and are able to create and maintain satisfying relationships as adults.

At what age does a child start developing Social & showing Leadership skills?

I would say that the child’s initial interaction begins in the uterus when the unborn baby learns to interact with its mother.

The child’s developmental interaction really starts, when he/she learns to walk and to talk. Most children have their individual time when they are ready to socialize with other children, and this may be around the age of 3 to 4 years of age.

It also depends on what kind of temperament the child has inherited: extroverts such as choleric and sanguine, or introverts such as melancholic and phlegmatic, a male or female.

It’s scientifically proven that girls develop earlier than boys physically and academically. We know that girls have their menses between 12 and 15 years of age, while the boys develop from 15 through 18 years of age.

Good social & leaders skills are important in all aspects of your child’s life.

The most important way to improve social & leadership skills in your child is by getting out there and practicing them or seek help from a specialist who specializes in leadership development in children and join the A+ Smart Little Leaders™ course.

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First of all, what is the definition of a Leader?

A leader is a confident and courageous person with the ability to make difficult decisions while at the same time setting a good example for others to follow while taking responsibility for the final result.

They are individuals who set clear goals, detailed plans, and have a vision for success.

Usually, a child who is born with leadership skills will not seek attention from others. Other children will come to play with them because he/she will be the one who comes up with fun games and other creative ideas.

Children who are born leaders are very outgoing, want to know everything, constantly ask questions, and always want to be first in anything they do.

Each parent’s dream is to have children who are achievers, persistent, motivated, well-spoken, and outgoing.

If you want to know if your child is a leader or not, just observe how your child interacts with others, what types of games he/she likes to play.

If both you, the parent, and your child desires to become a leader, here are a few ways to accomplish that.

The most important for you is to understand that becoming a leader is a mental process that takes time, guidance, and patience.

A+ Smart Little Leaders program was specially designed for children who want to become leaders and develop their own leadership skills.

This course can aid your child in deciding if they should choose a leadership path in their future or not.

Regardless, having a set of leadership skills can be very useful, because it can make their future life less stressful and more successful.

If your child is a born leader, he/she will easily get attention from their peers, easily meet with children their own age, and quickly establish communication with their peers.

But what if your child is not that sociable but wants to become a leader?

What must he/she do? Is this even possible?

How can you help your child to develop leadership skills?

9 Ways You Can Help Your Child to Develop Leadership Skills

1. Show support & encouragement to your child. Have a positive attitude toward your child. Praise your child more than you scold him/her.

2. Use good humor in your communication with your child. Doing that will make it easier to go over negative obstacles in your child’s behavior.

3. Respect your child’s opinion. Right or wrong, your child has the right to have his/her opinion. If you think his/her opinion is wrong, you have to correct it softly using humor and by your own example. Remember to praise your child for speaking out, because it takes courage for your child to express their own opinion at an early age. It is good to know that the ability for your child to have his/her own opinion is a sign of a future leader.

4. Every day show love and kindness to your child. Be affectionate with kisses and hugs, and express how much you love him/her.

5. Invite your child to communicate with adults as well. For example, when you are visiting your friend or when you are at a store. Allow your child to ask questions and treat him/her equally during the conversation.

6. Support the hobby of your child. If your child likes sports, computer robotics, drawing, singing, acting, crafting take him/her to a YMCA or a Park District where you can find these classes. Take him/her to different talent contests, theaters, concerts. There your child can interact with like-minded children while learning new things and having fun. Take your child to the library. At the library, you can find many exciting activities that your child will enjoy.

7. Take your child to the leadership classes that teach such important skills such as public speaking.

8. Teach your child how to set goals and achieve them. Your child will learn to be responsible. Don’t use discouraging phrases such as: “you can’t do this, you will not be able to do this, it’s too hard for you, you are not smart enough, why do you need this, you don’t know how to do this.”

9. Develop an Initiative for your child.

Allow your child to plan and make a decision while wisely guiding them in the right direction. This way your child can be proud that he or she made this decision on their own.

As a mother or a father, you should initiate positive behavior in your child. When he/she starts the task, always encourage your child to complete it.

As a mother, I had questions myself: Are my son’s leaders or not?

To make things easier for you, I included in the link below is a simple Leadership Quiz for your child.

If your child has a strong desire to become a leader, has clear goals, determination, a sharp mind, and a plan in place, in spite of their temperament type, a child can become a leader. It may take more work for those who are phlegmatic and melancholics. Help them to work on persistence, determination, and self-discipline and sign up today for A+ Smart Little Leaders classes and win.

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Ask your child this question: “What would you like to be: a leader or a follower?

There are very few children who would say that they want to be a follower.

There are four fundamental personality types: Sanguine, Phlegmatic, Choleric & Melancholic. As you know, there are no children and no adults who are 100% Sanguine, Phlegmatic, Choleric & Melancholic. As a rule, every human is a mixture of 2 or even 3 personality types. According to some people, there is no need to develop leadership skills in children who are Phlegmatic and Melancholic dominant. What makes them believe this?

Before I share with you examples of famous Phlegmatic & Melancholics, I want to state that if every child would go through a leadership development program like A+ Smart Little Leaders, the life of that child would be much easier. A class that is designed to develop leadership skills in 5 to 13 + children can provide necessary leadership skills that bolster the child’s confidence to succeed in life in what they want to do and to stay confident and open-minded with the mindset of a leader.

Every child on Earth wants to be confident in what he/she does and only the mindset of a leader and development of leadership skills can provide this. So regardless of the temperament type of a child, they deserve an opportunity to succeed.

Now, as I promised, here is an example of a famous Phlegmatic & Melancholics:

Michael Jackson, Chester Bennington, Carrey Mulligan, Natalie Portman, Johnny Depp, Princess Diana, Hale Berry, Ralph Smart, Marisa Peer, Miles Davis & much more.

It goes without saying that if these incredible individuals would have been given an opportunity to develop leadership skills & self-confidence at a very young age, their long road to success would have been shorter and easier.

And now you have such a chance with A+ Smart Little Leaders™ Program.

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How Unmade Decisions Can Ruin Your Life

Your life consists of small & big decisions.

When you cross a street you make a decision.

Getting your coffee at your favorite coffee shop you make a decision.

You probably make 15 to 20 small decisions every single day.

You could be in a completely different place-making right decisions in your life.

How are you do that?

According to the Pew Research Center, 81% of  Americans struggle to make a big decision and rely mainly on research on the Internet.

Should you?

“Siri, can you, please tell me, should I marry this man?”

Siri replies: “Reroute!”

Nope, Siri and the entire Internet is not the best solution to your problem.

José N. Harris once said: “Waiting hurts. Forgetting hurts. But not knowing which decision to take can sometimes be the most painful…” 

Does it sound familiar to you?

One of the major reasons we lose out life energy is our unmade decisions.

Unmade decisions over a while can affect your mind, mood, your performance at work, your personal life, and can lead to different health complications that are common in our modern society.

Some people are good at making decisions and some are not. Some people listen to their intuition and some are not.

I always will remember the story of a woman, who married a wrong man who very soon became an alcoholic and a violent man. As a result of continuous stress, she got terminally ill and died at the age of 37, leaving 2 little girls behind her. If she divorced her alcoholic and a violent husband, she might be still alive…

Sometimes it’s hard for us to make a big decision,  and we are trying to delay it, and as a result, we lose our life energy, our immune system goes down, and we feel constantly fatigued and unhappy.

Unmade decision becomes like a black hole that will invisibly suck out your life energy.

Unmade decision like a crab digs into your brain and causes you condition that in psychiatry called rumination. Where our brain like a cow constantly jewing on a particular unmade decision.

Scientists have proven that rumination is a precursor of a Depression. 

What should we do? How can you help yourself to make an important decision?

  1. You can choose to leave the situation you don’t like! Simply saying, you are running away from the situation that causing you harm.
  1. You can choose to accept, adapt to the current situation after evaluating it and weighing it on scales. What pros & cons. Only if you realize that to survive,  you have to temporarily adapt to the situation you are in, you can choose to accept it.
  1. Delayed Decision. It’s a good option if you put action toward the situation you are in. And at the present moment,  you are not able to make an immediate and firm decision. However, you recognize that you don’t like the situation you are in and you do put actions toward your upcoming escape. For example, if you don’t like your job but it pays well. You start to look for a better job that you like and have the same or even better pay.

But what if you don’t like any of these choices? What’s then? Then, my best advise to you is to work on developing the following decision-making skills:

4 essential life skills that will help you to make a big decision:  

  • 1. Critical Thinking
  • 2. The non-emotional approach to your problem.
  • 3. Listen to your intuition.
  • 4. Consider a long term solution.

With this set of skills, you will have no problem making big & important decisions in your life. And I sincerely hope that these suggestions will help you to make a big decision in your life, and ultimately will help you regain that precious life energy and happiness that you were missing for so long.